Pick up this book and watch your social skills skyrocket.

Many people lack social skills because they communicate only what their minds think of. Not realizing that your brain isn’t always correct and requires self-reflection. Because of this, they often end up having bad relationships with people not knowing what to do to avoid them in the first place. This results in reacting impulsively when the client isn’t satisfied with your work and ends up not paying you, trying to better your child but ends up being even more stubborn.

In today’s newsletter, I’ll walk you through some of the principles that had a profound effect on me and the ones that will be a stepping stone for you.

Context: These principles are only an introduction to encourage you to read the book yourself to succeed in all facets of your work, home, and social life. I am certain that a whole new realm of wisdom will be open to you once you read this book and watch your life level up enormously by this 200-page book.

1. SMILE- When people smile genuinely, their cheeks are raised upwards near their eyebrows which causes the other person to produce endorphins(making you feel happy) from their body making their mood happier just by looking at your smile. So they have no other option other than to like you.

1. GIVE HONEST AND SINCERE APPRECIATION- The next time you feel like you like something about someone, go let them know about it. If you observe good habits and traits in them, let them know about it. Compliment and give appreciation to them that you liked their shoes and you liked how they handled situations.

   There’s a great thing I learned which is not written in the book. When you compliment someone about a specific thing, they feel to reinforce it even more.

   For instance: You told a friend of yours that you really liked what they cooked, so the next time they’re engaged in that similar activity they will do their best to make it better than the last time and even better if they’re cooking for you.

   You can even use this to make someone do good habits even more efficiently and certainly. If I want to make a friend of mine perform meditation consistently, I’ll just point out good things about them when they’re doing it. It works like magic!

   One pivotal point to remember is to not use flattery because people have the ability to sense it.

2. NEVER CRITICIZE, COMPLAIN, OR CONDEMN- You criticize the other person to let them know that they did something wrong or something that you didn’t like. Guess what? It works in the exact opposite manner than you’ve imagined it to work. They won’t change their opinions right away and will cause hatred towards you. So what did you gain from this conversation? Just the other guys hatred towards you and the satisfaction which you’ll regret later.

   Remember, Never Complain. I used to complain about every small discomfort I faced or anything that was against my will.

3. THINK FROM OTHER’S PERSPECTIVES- “If the only skill you can master from this book is thinking from other people’s perspective then it’s going to be one of the stepping stones of your career” says Dale Carnegie. Whenever you’re in a heated situation or just a mundane situation where both of your points of view aren’t matching, just ask yourself- “What would I do if I were in their shoes?” Just doing this eliminates the problem of dealing with counterintuitive conversations.

4. LISTEN- Listening to others speak and resisting yourself to not interrupt in between and instead focusing on what they are speaking is the best trait that you can master. People love talking about themselves. So do they love listeners!

   The more you listen, the more you get to know the other person and the more you get to question them about themselves. This results in them speaking about themselves which results in them liking you and ultimately becoming an astonishing trait that you’ve developed to win people over you.

Actionable step:

For now, I am just giving three crucial principles to not overwhelm you with loads of information. Build self-awareness on it by revising these principles consistently and go use them on people!! In the coming newsletters, I’ll share more and provide how I implemented them just like the ones in this one.

I encourage you to read the book yourself as Dale Carnegie explains these principles in such a way that no one can.