“The person you have to spend the most time listening to in your life is yourself. Try not to lose their respect”-Mark Manson.

The biggest reason why you lack self-respect is you don't do the things you promised yourself that you are going to do.

You promised yourself, “I am not going to speak to that person again” or “I am not going to hit the snooze button from tomorrow morning.”

The next thing we know is you again take those same actions. Getting fed up but not improving.

So when you decide to make bigger decisions in your life like shifting cities or jobs, no wonder you can’t make them when you can’t not hit snooze.

So, how do you increase your self-respect?

Starting extremely small. Think about a decision that you make but end up not even bothering to complete it. It can be getting a gym membership, leaving that job, learning that skill, stopping eating junk food every day, sleeping early, etc.

Take inventory, and start doing them in your day-to-day life. Don’t get overwhelmed. One thing at a time.

After a certain time. You’ll realize that you’ve already achieved so much just by trusting yourself.

Bonus tip: Whenever you are faced with a difficult decision to make or a problem to solve, try solving it through your own intelligence instead of asking other people for their opinions and suggestions. Open your diary, write your problem in detail, then write all the solutions you can come up with.

You’ll be intrigued to know how fascinating solutions you can come up with when you use your brain.

Actionable steps:

1) Make an inventory of small things you have to do to build up trust and self-respect. Doing everything that you said you will.

2) Start extraordinarily small. Build up proof for yourself that you do what you say you’re going to do.